Should I Stop Drinking?

Choosing Between Moderation and Abstinence

Should I stop drinking, or can I learn how to cut down and drink moderately? Moderation is not a realistic goal for everyone with a drinking problem. But it does can be a starting point problem for drinkers who do not want to give up alcohol completely and may avoid getting professional help when lifelong abstinence is the one and only choice they are offered.

Being Realistic

Moderate drinking is a highly controversial issue. So we want to be clear from the outset that we do not believe that alcoholics and others with severe drinking problems are good candidates for moderation. The answer should be an affirmative YES for those with severe drinking problems who ask themselves “Should I stop drinking?” We do not subscribe to the unrealistic idea that alcoholics can learn to become controlled drinkers. Abstinence is without question the safest course for anyone who has developed a serious drinking problem.

However, for drinkers who flatly reject abstinence, a professionally guided attempt at moderation can and often does serve as a stepping-stone toward accepting the need for abstinence. Rarely, if ever, do heavy drinkers choose abstinence until they are convinced by their own experience that moderation is simply not a realistic and attainable goal for them. And rarely, if ever, do they decide to abstain simply because a treatment professional tells them that moderation will not work for them. Unfortunately, countless people with drinking problems who do not accept the need for abstinence avoid getting help when abstinence is the one and only choice they are offered. This lack of treatment alternatives has resulted in a great deal of unnecessary suffering as heavy drinkers continue to drink and suffer increasingly severe consequences. Rather than ignoring or abandoning these people, our approach provides them with a “launching pad” for changing their drinking behavior and gaining a more realistic perspective on the way they use alcohol and the problems it is causing in their lives.

Moderation is Attainable for Many Problem Drinkers with Less Severe Problems

This is an established fact supported by decades of scientific research. In our view, any steps taken to reduce the harm associated with drinking are steps taken in the right direction. As described below, not everyone with a drinking problem is alcoholic. It is now recognized that there are many different types of alcohol problems, rather than a single condition (“alcoholism”) that is either present or absent. And research shows that among people with less severe drinking problems many are capable of cutting down on their alcohol consumption and of learning how to consistently moderate their drinking within safer limits.

As part of the evaluation process, we help clients understand where they are in terms of the nature and severity of their alcohol problem and their chances of succeeding at moderation. We explain the benefits of not drinking at all and routinely encourage all new clients to start with a period of abstinence, even if their ultimate goal is moderation. When given a chance to try moderation with professional support and guidance, clients either learn how to drink moderately or they learn that moderation is not realistic for them and that they should stop drinking entirely. Clients who choose abstinence after being unable to moderate consistently are often more motivated and personally invested in making abstinence work for them.

Problem Drinking vs. Alcoholism

Although the terms “problem drinking” and “alcoholism” are often used interchangeably, they are not the same. As compared to alcoholics, problem drinkers usually have shorter histories of alcohol-related problems, more social and economic stability, and less severe consequences associated with their drinking. Most problem drinkers do not drink every day and have not experienced major losses or other severe consequences related to their drinking.

According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) and other public health agencies, there are at least four times as many problem drinkers as alcoholics in this country. However, most alcohol treatment programs are designed for people with the most severe drinking problems. Many individuals with less severe problems avoid seeking help at these programs because they do not want to be labeled as “alcoholics”, attend AA meetings, or accept abstinence as the one and only legitimate goal, especially when giving up drinking forever may not be necessary to resolve their problem.

There is still a great deal of “black and white” thinking about alcohol problems that divides drinkers into only two groups: alcoholics who are seen as constitutionally incapable of controlling their drinking and the rest of the drinking population who can drink socially without losing control. Now we know, however, that anyone who consistently and repeatedly drinks above certain limits is at greater risk for developing alcohol-related problems. We also know that there is a broad spectrum of alcohol problems that can vary in severity along a continuum ranging from mild to moderate to severe. In other words, not everyone with an alcohol problem is an alcoholic. In fact, the term “alcoholism” was officially removed as a medical diagnosis in 1979 and replaced by the broader category of “alcohol use disorders” that includes alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence.

Are Moderation Strategies Effective?

Alcohol researchers at universities and medical schools in the United States, the United Kingdom, Australia, Canada, and Norway have extensively studied the moderation strategies that form the basis of our treatment approach. Results of these studies, summarized in a recent book on controlled drinking, were as follows:

  • People who sought help to moderate their drinking were already experiencing significant problems related to their drinking, but were not as seriously dependent on alcohol as those who sought help from abstinence-based programs.
  • Individuals who received moderation training substantially reduced their alcohol consumption on average by 50-70% and as a result significantly reduced health and social problems related to their drinking.
  • These positive results were seen not only in drinkers who received professional treatment, but also those who worked on their own using a self-help guide.
  • Follow-up studies as long as 8 years showed that the people who were most successful in maintaining moderate problem-free drinking were those with less severe alcohol problems at the start. Many of those starting off with more severe problems succeeded with moderation for a period of time, but eventually decided to abstain from alcohol completely.
  • Overall, approximately 25% of those who tried moderation with this program ultimately chose to abstain instead.

Is Moderation Right for You or Should You Stop Drinking Entirely?

Although moderation may be a good starting point for many drinkers, it is not the best approach for everyone with a drinking problem. People with severe drinking problems generally find moderation difficult to maintain and often do better with abstinence. No one solution is best for all problem drinkers. There are many different pathways to success, and the key lies in finding which particular pathway works best for each person.

In general, heavy drinkers who are physically addicted to alcohol and/or those who have suffered serious alcohol-related problems should stop drinking entirely, as moderation is less effective. It is also not intended for formerly dependent drinkers (i.e., alcoholics) who have been abstaining. Studies indicate that people most likely to succeed at moderation are those who:

  • Have shorter drinking histories and less severe alcohol-related problems
  • Have never been physically addicted to alcohol
  • Have never had serious problems with other drugs
  • Are not currently dealing with serious life problems such as divorce, job loss, bankruptcy, medical illness, death of a loved one, depression, etc.
  • Have no medical or psychiatric problems that would only be made worse by alcohol even in moderation

People Who Should Not Drink at All

Moderate drinking guidelines exclude the following persons, who are advised by public health officials not to drink alcoholic beverages at all:

  • Women who are pregnant or trying to become pregnant
  • People who plan to drive, operate other potentially dangerous machinery, or engage in any safety-sensitive activities requiring coordination, attention, and skill
  • Individuals taking medications, including over-the-counter medications, that may interact adversely with alcohol
  • People who tend to lose control of their behavior (for example, become aggressive or violent) when they drink even moderate amounts of alcohol
  • People who drive while intoxicated, have been arrested for driving while impaired, and/or have been in an alcohol-related accident
  • Alcoholics in recovery and others with a history of serious alcohol problems who have already been abstaining from alcohol
  • Anyone under the age of 21
  • Anyone with a medical or psychiatric condition that would only be made worse by drinking, even in moderation

The Potential Benefits of Abstaining (at least for a while)

As stated above, abstinence is the safest course for anyone who has developed a serious problem with alcohol. Taking a break from drinking for a few weeks or longer is also the best way to get started with moderation. Here are some of the reasons why:

  • Abstinence is clearly the safest choice. There is no guaranteed “safe” level of drinking that will cause no harm. If you do not drink at all, you eliminate the possibility of incurring any additional adverse consequences (e.g., legal problems, health risks, etc.) caused directly or indirectly by your alcohol use.
  • Abstinence provides a unique opportunity to see things through a “different set of eyes” and to acquire valuable information about the ways you think, feel, and behave in the absence of alcohol that is simply not attainable by other methods. It helps to reveal the nature and extent of your attachment to alcohol, including the degree to which you rely on chemically altering your mood to cope with stress and other negative emotions.
  • Abstinence gives you greater access to your emotions and an opportunity to learn how to deal with them more effectively
  • Abstinence gives you a chance to break old habits, experience a change, and build some confidence.
  • Abstinence helps you to identify more clearly the internal (environmental) and external (emotional) “triggers” associated with your alcohol use
  • Abstinence can help to reduce conflicts with family members and significant others (e.g., spouse, parents, etc.) caused or exacerbated by your alcohol use.
  • Abstinence provides an indication of how easy or difficult it is for you to stop drinking
  • Abstinence exposes voids and unmet needs in your life that you may be filling up or distracting yourself from with alcohol.
  • Abstinence may enhance or restore the effectiveness of prescribed medications you are taking for other problems such as depression, anxiety, etc.

How Serious is Your Drinking Problem? Take the Self-Assessment Tests

We encourage you to take the Self-Assessment Tests on this website to start gaining a more accurate perspective on your drinking and deciding whether or not moderation may be a good option for you. Keep in mind, however, that no test or quiz can substitute for a face-to-face clinical evaluation by a treatment professional.


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